Day Two of QWOC WEEK

I don’t even know where to start. I had every intention of blogging about my experience yesterday at the Monday Health panel, and talking about what it was like to sit there and listen to those beautiful, inspiring, proud, nurturing women speak to me. To ‘me’, as a queer woman of color in Boston. There were four people that had been given the space and time to address me and my concerns. That fact alone, and in itself would’ve felt warm and fuzzy enough to write about but the LOVE, and desire to guide/mentor that I felt radiating from the table was simply unmatched by any other sentiment in the room, at least for me.

I wanted to write about all of this. But after last night, quite frankly, I feel emotionally congested and choked up. In a good way. I am so moved.

It’s funny, as I started this week, I felt weary, and longed for an extended period of me time after this week was over. But after last night’s panel, I began to feel rejuvenated. This community organizing… it’s an addiction. I’m beginning to feel like Gladys, the plant that was unfortunate enough to belong to me while I was a consultant in a software company. I would travel for weeks on end, and return to see her dying, and wilted, brown from no sun or care. And then I would water her, and literally bring her back to life, only to leave again for an extended period of time. The cycle continued for about two years. It must have been so exhausting to be on the brink of death every two weeks! But I digress…

I am fully charged.

Tonight, the Center for New Words brought me back to life in a BIG way. Not only was I moved to tears to see all the interracial couples and friendships in the room, truly excited to be there and happy to meet everyone else, but I was moved by all the words… about QWOC+ Boston, about me, about finally having a space to talk. The constant words of gratitude I kept hearing reminded me that sticking to my ideals had won… QWOC+ had won the ‘hearts’ of people, not just their wallets.

So many people took it upon themselves to mention why they love what QWOC+ Boston does, why they support it, why it’s important to have, why they applaud me for doing it (which really made me embarrassed). Nevertheless, it was so wonderful to hear, especially after I had just been told by someone that these “key” people in the community don’t work with me… Interesting that the key people they mentioned weren’t key health advocates/providers, legal activists, other community organizers, or any other people working in pivotal positions required to sustain an entire community. They were business people. I see this now, and am relieved at the common thread (QWOC+ Boston isn’t a for-profit business and thus the conflict) but at the time, I did give into the insecurities that come with leadership sometimes. I did question myself… why couldn’t I work with any of these people? What was it that I was doing wrong? I was actually beginning to spend too much time thinking about why I couldn’t compromise our ideals for the sake of other people profiting!

But during the interracial relationships discussion I remembered why I’ve always been picky about collaborations and alliances, and why I’ve chosen to work on building relationships with some people/organizations over others. There were a number of reasons that came up. But the biggest and most important one was that there are some people that will align themselves with your vision and so work with you towards it. And, then, there are some people that won’t. They don’t see the ‘bigger’ importance of sticking to a vision that’s inclusive and authentically welcoming to all, above feeding off some sort of manufactured rivalry. So, all they did/do is repeatedly get in the way of it. What I saw last night could not be described by my words, nor recounted in any blog I could create. All I can say is that there was magic. People felt it. And, in fact, I’m resolved to posting people’s words on the qwocboston site/blog during the week. The world needs to see that there are women (and men!) that believe in the work that we’re doing.

I have been fortunate to work with true allies: Center for New Words (twice now in one year), Socializing for Justice, the Fenway, Black Pride, Queer Asian Pacific Alliance, Good Asian Drivers, and so many wonderful people who believe in me and what I’m doing. I am choosing to focus on these alliances, and these collaborations, because their love will always re-energize me and pull me forward.

I got this letter last night, from a straight feminist man (author of “G Spot”) that sat in the crowd. I have to share:

Hi: I just wanted to express my thoughts tonight about one of the best CNW’s “Feminism and Dessert” Workshops I have ever been to. I will never even think of touching a women’s hair, unless I am personally involved with her. I will not consider myself as not being a (racist) in the sense of not being prejudiced; Nor will I ever imagine what it must feels like being a woman of color and how she feels about growing up her whole life and how others may perceive her as beautiful (because of her pigment of her skin.) or just being born a woman of color.

I plan to write about the events tonight in my Feminist Web Blog “My G Spot” http://mygspot.typepad.com/ and mention your organization on face book, Code Pink Boston Meet-up and even NARAL Pro-Choice Massachusetts because I feel more women need to know about the tremendous work you are doing this week and all year long. I was really moved and touched tonight by the compassion and caring spirit everyone shared with each other and just because I felt like a minority (as being one of the only two males in the room; the big guy by the window wearing the glasses and my sandals with the painted toenails-another story all together) I didn’t feel uncomfortable and didn’t feel I didn’t belong there tonight, thank you for that.

I would love to volunteer for your organization in some capacity but I hesitate because I am just a straight white male who loves feminism and supporting/working for women’s right and women’s cause. Nevertheless, if you feel that I could be of service to your organization in the near future please let me know. I am so happy I had the chance to meet so many warm and charming women tonight and just sat back and enjoyed myself and all it’s pleasantries. Thank you again.
Peace and Love

Anyone who knows what QWOC+ Boston stands for knows exactly what I’m going to write to this beautiful person. If you get it, you are welcome. And you do, so you are :o) That plus in QWOC+ Boston’s name is where all this love comes from, indiscriminately. And people like you make it possible.

Day One of QWOC WEEK

It’s finally happening. I woke up this morning and thought, “It’s QWOC WEEK.” There wasn’t that much excitement in my mind as I thought about it because I hadn’t gotten enough sleep, I’m still eating irregularly, my hair needs to be done, and there was a part of me that still wondered who I was doing this for… me? Had I become this deluded person that felt like I was filling a void that didn’t need to be filled? Did Boston care that there was an entire week dedicated to celebrating the queer women of color that have contributed so much to our community for years? Did queer women of color care? I wondered…

And perhaps the self-doubt was my way of dealing with all the anxiety I’d been feeling about this week, all the stress it had created for me in additional to regular life’s pain points, all the drama/negativity from people who still don’t get what I’m trying to do, all the nervousness that comes with putting your heart out on the table, and on the line, for something you truly love… Whatever the real internal was, I resolved to be happy before I left my apartment this morning. I told myself that if I accomplished nothing from this week other than getting the volunteers/organizers together, who seemed happy to be a part of something and to be meeting other queer women of color in this city, it would still be worth it.

I have learned so much over the past year. I feel like I’ve been on this accelerated leadership development program. Images of boy tweens that I have seen, who are growing so fast – too fast – that their arms seem too long for their bodies, their ears too big, their chests broadened in defiance of puberty, but still flat with years to go… Life is moving faster than their bodies can keep up with. I feel that way these days; that qwoc+ boston’s success exploded in front of me and I was not yet fully capable; that I took on a burden that was too big for me and have struggled to keep up and ‘step up’ each and every step of the way; that my fear of letting something beautiful fall for lack of wisdom has held me back at times. This journey has been stretching. It still is. But, as I think this, I know that it has also been such a blessing to have learned all what I have learned, to have met all the wonderful people that I have met, and come to love… Even the ones that have not been so wonderful, or so nice…

Once upon a time I was naive. I thought that everyone was good. That everyone was an idealist inside. That everyone was fair. That everyone could always see the bigger picture, no matter how big their egos were. I was wrong. And there has been no stronger reminder than my various experiences this year. It’s even been a reminder that I am not so perfect myself. That I am fallible. That I am human, and that I make mistakes. However, I am proud of the fact that I haven’t lost my way, still. That in spite of how difficult it may have been time and time again – I am not thick-skinned enough to suffer continued hurt/disappointment – I have stayed true to myself.

So, it’s day one of QWOC WEEK, and here I am, the “Head Organizer”, looking like crap from no sleep, feeling like crap from no time to take care of myself, but feeling as proud as a gardener in spring. There are so many smiley faces online, so many exclamations (“QWOC WEEK!”) in my inbox, facebook updates, and voicemails. There is something budding today… and it’s beautiful.

Good Asian Drivers Blog About QWOC Week

Good Asian Drivers post about QWOC Week!

Click here to go to their site’s blog!

QWOC WEEK IS COMING!

If you are queer and you live in Boston, it’s nearly impossible for you not to have heard of QWOC+ (Queer Women of Color and Friends). Be mindful of the plus (+); it’s one of the only groups in Boston that organize social events that draw out all members of our LGBTQ community regardless of gender, sexuality, and race. Which really is something that we have been needing here for a while. I’ve been to QWOC+ events and I have to admit, they were a blast. And it’s nearly impossible to get me to leave my house.

That’s why QWOC+ Week is going to be kind of a historical event. Never before has there been a week-long multicultural pride festival for LGBTQ people of color anywhere in the United States. Literally, all of these intersecting communities (Truth Serum, Fenway Community Health, Center for New Words, Queer Asian Pacific Alliance, MadFemmePride, MIT, PFLAG, Spectra, and more) came together to put together the program this week, which includes discussions on health services, relationships, and identity, artist showcases, film screenings, outings, beach parties, bar crawls, you name it.

In fact, we’re going to be performing at the artist showcase on August 6, at 7pm for the QWOC+ Spoken Word Showcase at Middlesex. Kit and I will be doing some pieces early on in the night as well as at the end, so come support all of our queer artists of color and allies, and stay till you’re all danced out.

All this is to say that we love QWOC+. We love them, love them, love them. They’re doing amazing work that is essential to building our community in Boston. So let’s party!

QWOC WEEK PRESS RELEASE (Aug 4-10)

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE:

QUEER WOMEN OF COLOR AND FRIENDS (OF ALL COLORS AND ORIENTATIONS) UNITE!
“QWOC+ Boston Fills A Gap In The Local LBGTQ Community—With A Week Long Celebration”

Boston, MA August 1, 2008On August 4, 2008, Queer Women of Color and Friends (QWOC+ Boston) will launch the first ever, first annual QWOC WEEK, a multicultural pride festival for people of all backgrounds. Intended to increase visibility for LBGTQ people of color and be a rich celebration of pride and authentic diversity for all New Englanders, QWOC WEEK is open to all: from older African-American lesbians to immigrant college queers; from Latino gay guys to transgender pacific islanders; from political allies to non-profit health educators; this festival is open to everyone.

True to its motto – “Diversity Speaks” – QWOC Week 2008 will provide a rare opportunity for the Boston LBGTQ community to connect, collaborate, and “speak” on a variety of race-related issues such as inter-racial dating, queer friendships across the color line and the challenge of providing health services to culturally layered queer identities. With the diverse lineup of events, including a highly anticipated spoken-word/performance show, a Friday night film screening, and a family-friendly day in the park, QWOC Week 2008 promises to be a fun and memorable celebration.

But, more than just fun and games, QWOC+ Boston takes pride in its proactive year-round outreach to under-represented members of the queer community, including other organizations that promote awareness of a variety of issues and/or align with their goal of increasing consciousness via social-networking and community-building. Collaborations with key organizations that promote diverse, inclusive, community-building (such as Black Pride, Multicultural Aids Coalition, Queer Asian Pacific Alliance, MadFemmePride, and Greater Boston PFLAG) underscore the festival’s varied event lineup bound to appeal to a variety of community members.

Working to bolster the local queer scene and provide friendly, authentic community for queer women of color and friends since 2006, Asala talks about the importance (and “fun!” she says) of multi-racial queer community:

“It’s been most rewarding for me to meet the range of incredible, inspiring women I have met over the past few years, and from all over – the non-profit sector, healthcare, the service industry, music, art, academia etc. My circle of friends is so diverse, so progressive, and just so much fun because of it. So, my biggest wish for QWOC Week is that people make these valuable connections.”

DATES AND TIME: Monday, Aug 4 through Sunday, Aug 10

LOCATION: Various locations in Boston, Cambridge, and Jamaica Plain

For more information about QWOC Week, visit http://www.qwocboston.org/qwocweek.html

Press opportunities: Press passes to events and interviews with members of QWOC+ Boston will be granted to a limited number of journalists. Interested parties should contact Adora Asala, (617) 848-9593, adora@qwocboston.org

About QWOC+ Boston

Queer Women of Color and Friends (QWOC+ Boston) is a grassroots organization founded in 2006. Run by a diverse group of more than 15 Boston-area LBGTQ community members, QWOC+ Boston is creating a sustainable QWOC+ movement in New England and is committed to providing open-minded, authentic and diverse spaces for LBGTQ women of color (and their friends/allies) in the Greater Boston area.

For more information, visit www.qwocboston.org.



QWOC Week Schedule of Events



Monday August 4th at 7PM

Complex Identities: The Challenge of Providing Health Services to LGBT People of Color

Featuring special guests:

Lula Christopher (Boston Black Women’s Health Initiative), Jacquie Bishop (Director of Community Initiatives, American Diabetes Association), Reverend Irene Monroe (Activist, Scholar and Public Theologian), and Lisa Moris (The Network La Red, Dudley Pride Coalition)

MIT (Bldg 14E-304), 77 Massachusetts Avenue, Cambridge, MA 02139

Cost: FREE


Tuesday August 5th at 7PM

Diversity Speaks On Love, Friendship, and Family: A Discussion on Interracial Relationships within the Queer Community

Co-sponsored by Center for New Words’ “Feminism and Dessert” discussion series

YWCA, 7 Temple Street Cambridge MA 02139

Cost: FREE


Wednesday August 6th at 7PM (Doors at 6:30PM)

QWOC+ Boston presents “OUTSPOKEN: A Queer People of Color Spoken-Word and Performance Artist Showcase” in collaboration with Truth Serum Productions

Co-sponsored by Queer Asian Pacific Alliance

MIDDLESEX LOUNGE, 315 Massachusetts Avenue Cambridge MA

Cost: $5


Thursday August 7th at 7PM

Back to Basics Afterwork Social: Summer Breezin’ at DBAR

Co-sponsored by MadFemmePride

DBAR, 1236 Dorchester Avenue Boston MA

Cost: FREE


Friday August 8th at 7PM

Lights, Camera, Activism: Movie Night featuring a Film Screening of “Dangerous Living: Coming Out in the Developing World”, “U People”, and “The Donor”

Hosted by MIT Women’s and Gender Studies’ “Chicks Make Flicks” Program

MIT STATA CENTER (32-155), 77 Massachusetts Avenue Cambridge MA 02139

Cost: FREE


Saturday August 9th 1PM – 5PM

We Are Family: QWOC+ Boston Day in the Park

STONY BROOK PARK (Opp. Orange Line T-Stop), Jamaica Plain MA

Co-sponsored by Greater Boston PFLAG

Cost: FREE


Saturday August 9th 9PM – 2AM

FUSION “BRING AN ALLY” PRIDE CELEBRATION

A Multicultural Pride Celebration for Men and Women of all Colors

Brought to you by Spectra Entertainment

9PM-10:30PM Grown ‘N’ Sexy Reception hosted by Black Pride, Multicultural Pride Coalition, MOCCA, and People to People: Sistah Summit/Sister Insider

UMBRIA, 295 Franklin Street Boston MA 02110

http://boston.going.com/fusionparty


Sunday August 10th at 12PM

Queer Women of Color and Friends Beach Getaway

Hosted by the QWOC+ Boston Organizers and Volunteers

Revere Beach, Revere MA

QWOC Week Schedule of Events

QWOC Week is a multicultural pride festival for LGBT people of color.

We’re putting on this week for the first time in Boston and will appreciate your attendance and support; it is so important that we ALL – boys, girls, younger, older, lesbian, bisexual, gay, trans, straight, and allies – come together as a community to help make this week a success and guarantee it for years to come.

Join the movement. RSVP at any one of our sites, leave some enthusiasm, then spread the word!

Website for Updated Event Details (Pretty Flyers Up!)

PLEASE NOTE: The most current calendar of events will be made available on our website. So, be sure to double-check event details before you head out.


Monday August 4th at 7PM

COMPLEX IDENTITIES: The Challenge of Providing Health Services to LGBTQ People of Color (A Panel Discussion)

Join Queer Women of Color and Friends (QWOC+ Boston) for a panel discussion and OPEN community discussion on the health challenges facing LGBT people of color, featuring special guests:

Jacquie Bishop (American Diabetes Association)
Lula Christopher (Boston Black Women’s Health Initiative)
Reverend Irene Monroe (Harvard Divinity School)
Lisa Moris (The Network/La Red, Boston Area Rape Crisis Center, Dudley Pride Coalition)

@ MIT Bldg 14E-304, 77 Massachusetts Avenue Cambridge MA 02139

Tuesday August 5th at 7PM

“Diversity Speaks On Love, Friendship, and Family: A Discussion on Interracial Relationships within the Queer Community”

Co-sponsored by Center For New Words “Feminism and Dessert” discussion series

@ YWCA 7 Temple Street Cambridge MA 02139

Wednesday August 6th

QWOC+ Boston presents “OUTSPOKEN: A Queer People of Color Spoken-Word Artist Showcase” in collaboration with Truth Serum productions

Join us for an evening of spoken word and performance, featuring performances from:
Good Asian Drivers, Kit Yan and Melissa Li (Boston)
Letta Neely (Boston)
Judah Dorrington (Boston)
Ignacio Rivera (Brooklyn)
Kay Barrett (NYC)
Shante Paradigm (Brooklyn)
Co-sponsored by Queer Asian Pacific Alliance (QAPA)
Doors at 6:30PM. Show starts at 7PM.

Resident DJs spinning old school R&B, soul, and house music from 9PM onwards. Stay on to mingle, socialize, and dance!
@ MIDDLESEX LOUNGE 315 Massachusetts Avenue Cambridge MA 02139

Thursday August 7th at 7PM

Back to Basics: Summer Breezin’ at DBAR

Co-sponsored by MadFemmePride
@ DBAR 1236 Dorchester Avenue Boston MA 02136
Join Queer Women of Color and Friends (QWOC+ Boston) and MadFemmePride to commemorate the very first QWOC+ Boston event (and MadFemmePride collaboration) at Dbar in 2006! Yup, it’s going on two years, people!

This event routinely draws out a diverse, friendly, progressive, and fun crowd. Come on down after work in your three-piece suit, straight from a day off at home in your jeans and flipflops, or coordinated in purple with three of your best friends – we really don’t care just as long as you’re there.

Weather-permitting, the patio will be open.

This event goes from 7PM-11PM. But feel free to stay on afterwards for more socializing and dancing.


Friday August 8th at 7PM

Lights, Camera, Activism: Movie Night Feat. “DANGEROUS LIVING: Coming Out in the Developing World” and “The Donor”

Hosted by MIT’s Women and Gender Studies “Chick Makes Flicks” Program

@ MIT Bldg 32-141 STATA CENTER 77 Massachusetts Avenue Cambridge MA 02139

Saturday August 9th

1PM – 5PM:

Stomping the Yard: QWOC Day in the Park

@ Park Opposite Stony Brook Station (Orange Line)

Join Queer Women of Color and Friends and Greater Boston PFLAG (Parents, Friends, and Family of Lesbians and Gays) for a fun day in the park. Bring poetry/prose to share. Show up with a potluck item to place on the community food blanket. Come dressed for an active game of kickball. Or come with your favorite wing-person for some fun speed-friending. This event is all about community-building, family, friends, and celebrating the diversit
y within our community… together.

9PM – 2AM:

FUSION: The Official QWOC Week Saturday Night Pride Party for Men AND Women

Bring An Ally!
Brought to you by Spectra Entertainment
The Revolutions Takes Place @ UMBRIA 295 Franklin Street Boston MA 02110

  • Bring “Your” Allies! And be part of the revolution…
    • Gay manfriends, Straight girlfriends, Clueless Coworkers, Comin ‘Round Cousins, Supportive Siblings, Moms and Dads (Just Tell Em Before You Get There), Old College Roommates, New Open Flatmates, Too-Busy-To-Clubbers, Coffeeshop Friends, White Friends, Brown Friends…

  • Come UN-ARMED for much love, celebration, and pride in unity
  • Dress/Accent in “Purple” for solidarity in support of QWOC Week
  • Grown ‘N’ Sexy Reception 9PM-10PM

Oh, and did we mention… The First 50 people get in FREE!
BOSTON.GOING.COM/QWOCWEEK ADVANCED DISCOUNTED TICKETS AND RSVP

Sunday August 10th at NOON

Queer Women of Color and Friends Beach Getaway

Hosted by the QWOC+ Boston Organizers and Volunteers


The QWOC WEEK crew will be taking over REVERE beach for the festival’s final day. Weather-permitting, we’ll be getting some much-needed relaxation after the week-long festival.

@Revere Beach (Blue Line Accessible)

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