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My mother always used to say to me, “I don’t care what you do out there, but as soon as you step into my house…”
She’d never finish. But I knew exactly what she meant. I feel the same way about my “space” on the internet; it is sacred, but more importantly it is mine. This blog is my internet home address, and so you see I’ve chosen to open its doors to visitors, with the expectation that they respect my space.
So, remember: there are rules to follow if you want to remain welcome in my house.
I write about critical and controversial topics, for the purpose of inspiring change, which we all know can be exhilarating, but also very uncomfortable. Hence, I expect the comments section to represent strong and often opposing sentiments to what is written by myself and other commenters. However…
I write to inspire discussion, not spark verbal riots.
I welcome (in fact, I encourage) different points of view — healthy debate is fun! — but comments that are intentionally insulting, overtly offensive, defensive, disruptive, or derailing i.e. not focused on the subject at hand, and/or re-centers the narrative will NOT be approved.
Comments that do not stay on topic (a huge pet peeve of mine) will not be approved.
Comments that contain an excess of profanity will also not be approved.
Commenters who repeatedly break the rules of my house will be uninvited.
Trust me, you don’t want the internet equivalent of me dragging you by your ear out the door; you will be called out first before being permanently blocked from participating in future conversations on this blog.
But, hopefully, it won’t get to that.
You’ll listen before you respond.
You’ll engage in disagreement, not because you want to win, but because you want to learn.
You’ll respect where everyone is coming from.
(Do note: Kitchen table feminism in my home holds more power than a PhD.)
If you’re an ally, you’ll declare yourself as such openly, and respect that my home is a safe haven for brown people like me.
Now that we’re all square on that, please do come in! Make yourself at home, have some mango juice.
All love warriors are welcome here :)
Meet Spectra: Queer Nigerian Afrofeminist Writer and Media Activist. Social Entrepreneur Nurturing Principled Diaspora and Women's Philanthropy in Media and Tech. Self-Care and Self-Love Evangelist. Idealist Warrior Woman. Big Dreamer. Big Thinker. Big Doer, Too.
Read Spectra. Get conscious. Grow ya Heart. Expand ya mind. ♥ Think newly. Be. Breathe. Battle. Fight the Power. LOVE. Connect the dots. ♥ Sparkle. Shine your badass unique self. Yep. ♥EMMH
Follow Spectra. Because she always presents the hidden or untold perspective in the stories she covers; because of her brave, and unrelenting honesty (inward and out) and the way she makes sure it is always guided by love and empathy; because she empowers her readers with her own example, reminding us of why our own voices matter. ♥Idalia
Do you believe in the connection between love and social justice? Do you believe that LGBTQ rights is a transnational issue? Do you believe that gender and trans struggles are integral to the racial justice movement? If so, check out Spectra. She’s awesome, fierce, and most importantly, speaks from the heart.Sarath SuongProgram DirectorBoston, MAMAP for Health, PRISM
I love not only your thoughts, but also how you express them… Your love-centered, hopeful, positive and proactive voice is incredibly refreshing and exactly what I’ve been looking for recently in the feminist blogosphere.Sara
Spectra has allowed myself, and many I know, access safer spaces to have much needed, challenging and powerful conversations that would otherwise not occur in our communities.ShakiraThe Network/La Red
… a flexible and effective communicator with youth across various social, class and cultural strata.AyariGirl Scouts Program Coordinator
Spectra is a talented speaker and facilitator and is especially adept at working with groups of students in ways that both challenge and support individual viewpoints.http://Eva, Harvard Women's Center
… a force to be reckoned with–in a very positive way. Spectra has the “gift” of envisioning the greatness we can achieve and uniting the folks who will make that happen. I adore her.TimFenway Health
… [an] articulate weaving of personal experience and analysis.Becky
By sharing your story, you allow people like me to relate, to experience, to learn and to share with others as well. thank you, thank you, thank you.JT
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